By Stephanie Craig
Are you overwhelmed and anxious? Do you have tasks, fears, and disappointments preventing you from focusing on the present? Do you find it difficult to enjoy today because your mind is somewhere else? You don’t have to live consumed by the past and future.
Mindfulness is the practice of increasing focus on the present moment instead of on the past and future. Mindfulness creates space for you to live and enjoy life with less background noise. It can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression while increasing attention, calm, and presence in your relationships.
Most often, the present moment is not the source of stress. Rather, it’s our past or future oriented, obsessive thoughts creating anxiety. Stress results from the long to-do list for later today or the difficult conversation we are replaying from yesterday. However, making breakfast is low stress when we focus on noticing the texture of the bread, the scent of the eggs, and the sound of the toaster.
The hopeful news is current neuroscience says our brains are moldable and created for change. With intentional, repetitive mindfulness practice, our brains can and will embrace more present focus. Explore these mindfulness characteristics and practices to feel calmer and more present in life.
8 Characteristics of Mindfulness:
1. Notice your surroundings as you observe them through your five senses. “I see a red car, I hear my favorite song, I feel cool air blowing on me, I feel the smooth steering wheel, I smell my peppermint car freshener.”
2. Let go of trying to control what is outside your control. Accept what is happening and think about how you can bring the best version of yourself into that situation.
3. Let go of judging people and circumstances as good/bad. Instead notice and accept behavior and circumstances as they are. Recognize your response does not need to be determined by others behaving well or badly.
4. Notice and name feelings without allowing your feelings to determine your response. “I’m noticing that sadness is surrounding me right now and I can feel it in my throat and in my eyes.” A feeling can just be a feeling when you understand and name it.
5. Notice thoughts and feelings come and go like waves and usually move on if we do not grasp or avoid them.
6. Participate fully in exactly what you are doing right now. Let go of ruminating and begin describing your present experience to yourself through your senses. Allow yourself to become immersed fully in the present experience.
7. Tend to each thing in its own time. If while you are focusing on the present moment, you are noticing a repeated invasive thought about a future task, set aside a specific time later to give the future task your full attention.
8. Do one thing at a time. There is something relaxing about refusing to multitask.
Now that you understand some basic ideas of mindfulness, use the following steps to stay in the present when past and future thoughts try to dominate your mind.
5 Steps for Practicing Mindfulness:
DESCRIBE your moment by moment actions to yourself. “I am getting out of bed, the floor is cold, I’m turning on the shower…”
NOTICE past/future oriented thoughts. “I am noticing that I’m thinking about my work meeting tomorrow.”
GENTLY DISMISS past/future oriented thoughts. “Now is not the time to think about my work meeting. I will spend 30 minutes tonight preparing for my meeting. Right now, I am focusing on…”
RETURN to describing your moment by moment experience using your senses. “I see a blue umbrella, I smell fresh rain, I feel moisture on my skin.”
REPEAT the process over and over knowing you are retraining your brain. At some point in the near future, you won’t have to work so hard at it!
I encourage you to commit 21 days to developing this practice and track your progress. Visit the Journeybravely.com Resources page for your free 21 Day Mindfulness Challenge PDF plus a free PDF Mindfulness Steps & Characteristics sheet. I wish you success in showing up fully in your present life!
Stephenie Craig is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Therapist of 18 years, specializing in emotional/relational health. She loves hearing others’ stories and helping people find new perspective that produces peace, healing, and connection through counseling. Stephenie provides treatment for adults, teenagers, couples, and families with anxiety symptoms, parenting struggles, teen issues, depression, grief, divorce, and other life transitions. Connect with Stephenie at Journeybravely.com.
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